Sunday, December 26, 2010
I went out yesterday and met this korean girl that has been in the states for a little over 10 years. As we were talking about New York, the differences between living here and in Europe/Korea it became appartent to me that she was a highly educated and well travelled person with lots of interesting stories to tell. Anyways, after a while we started talking about the dating scene in New York and what our preferences in terms of partners were. I had the feeling that the conversation was going really well and she actually took an interest in me. And then I heard something that really shocked me. Although this woman did not know me and met me for the first time in her life, she felt comfortable enough to tell me that she thinks black people (she specifically called out blacks, east indians, filipinos and thais) are dirty. I was shocked! Not that I haven't hear any racist comments from people before, but the reason I was so shocked was twofold. For one, it was coming from an obviously formally highly educated and well travelled person and secondly the fact that she was a woman. Typically when you hear this kind of stuff it's guys who are saying it, not women. Especially not "smart" women. However, after I heard that, the conversation went down the hill quickly. She realized and clearly saw that I was not feeling her statement at all. I didn't bother to tell her that I think that this was an absolutely stupid thing to say, but I decided to leave her with a few thoughts that I guess surprised her. I told her how much I adore black women and that I have dated them for years, which judging by her reaction was a shock to her, since she did, for whatever reason, not expect me to be attracted to black women. A few minutes after that I left the scene and was very confused about what I just experienced. Anyways, on my way home I saw plenty of gorgeous black women and could just not understand how anyone might ever consider them dirty. Sometimes it's a crazy world we are living in.